Most individuals who cheat fall into two categories. One involves an individual who is married and is seeing someone behind the spouses back. The second involves two separate married individuals who are both having affairs with one another. Both couples/ partners are usually unaware of this deception.

Cheaters generally rendezvous with their lover's sometime during their work day. In most cases, the individual who is cheating and their new partner live or work in the same general area. This gives them time and opportunity to carry on their secretive behavior without threat of being discovered by their spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend, Fiancee' or Fiance' or co-workers. You will also find when you pay attention that your significant other they will try and control all information that you get concerning their daily whereabouts. They will deny everything at all times, unless confronted with proof about their indiscretions.  Travel may take place if your significant other has to travel for work. 

Basically, cheating involves many lies. This is why Polygraph Testing is the most solid way to find out, unless you catch your partner in the act with solid factutal evidence.  Cheaters are always lying about where they are, where they have been, what they do, and how they really feel. These lies are often mixed with some truth and are incorporated into every aspect of their life that they share with you. Lies and deceptions can only go on for so long though before noticeable clues start to poke holes in what the cheaters have created.

Here are some tried and tested clues or "signs" that cheaters most often exhibit

Your spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance/fiancee, or significant other:

Has a history or prior instance of infidelity. This falls under the "if it has happened before it is likely to happen again" rule. Those men and women who have cheated once will generally relapse.

• Has been spending a lot of time lately working out, in the tanning salon, or beauty salon cultivating their appearance. Nails, hair style, makeup, clothing, or men may trim their facial hair or grow some facial hair.  

• Seems to act more cold and/or distant and is inconsiderate of your feelings.

• Is spending a lot of time on the cell phone away from you out of ear-shot. They also may leave the house or room to talk on their cell phone in a sudden manner. They may wait till you leave before they actually talk on their cell phone or on the house phone. 

• Suddenly hangs up the phone or acts really odd when you walk in the room. They tell you they were on the phone with someone at work, wrong number, etc.                                                                                                                                               
• Hides their cell phone bill from you or is very protective of the bill when it arrives in the mail so you cannot check the numbers called. 

•  Secretly purchased a new cell phone.

• Receives suspicious voicemail messages.

• Has recently started using phone cards.

• Seems to never answer their cell or home phone in a timely manner when you try to reach them by phone during the day. If they do answer, they seem to be very evasive with you and not truthful about their current whereabouts. They may tell you that they have been having cell phone problems, their cell phone was on vibrate and they did not hear it or they have been in meetings all day. The phone was leefft on their desk and they forgot to grab it.   

• Is lying to you about insignificant things.

• Has suddenly stopped complaining about things in their relationship with you that have bothered them in the past.

• Has a secret P. O. Box that they are hiding from you.

• Has found reasons not to attend family or holiday gatherings.

• Started having their laundry handled independently or they hurry to wash the clothes. This is to prevent you from seeing what they have worn with the person they are cheating or they may have evidence they need to clean.

• Seems to have started acting in a paranoid manner. This may include such behavior as your spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance or fiancee inquiring if you have been "snooping" on them. This is turning things on you to avoid being questioned about them.  

• Is consistently washing their vehicle and keeping it meticulously cleaned out. For impressing reasons 

• Has a secret banking account that they are keeping you unaware of.

• Exhibits defensive behavior in normal conversations with you.

• Inquires about your daily/weekly schedule more often than usual, so they can plan their secret rendezvous with their lover.

• Has developed a sudden interest in a new hobby, sport or sexual postion with you.

• Spends a lot of time on the computer e-mailing or instant messaging, on their IPAD at odd times of the night. Statistics indicate that 31% of people have had an online conversation that has led to real-time sex. Approximately 70% of time on-line is spent in chat rooms or sending e-mails; of these interactions, the vast majority are romantic in nature. 38% of people have engaged in explicit online sexual conversation and 50% of people have made phone contact with someone they chatted with online.

• Is frequently deleting e-mail messages, or has changed their password or will not give you their passwords. States they do not need to give you their password because they are not doing anything wrong. RED FLAGS   

• Is being very secretive and protective of the activity on their home computer. This may be while they are in chat rooms or on the internet.

• Tells you "I just need my space" when confronted regarding their suspicious behavior.

• Ignores or deflects your romantic/sexual advances, refuses to engage in any intimacy with you. Or when you do engage in sexual activity it is like a chore to get it over with you. Makes excuses as to whay they do not want to engage in sex with you.   

• Begins losing interest in romantic gestures like giving you gift cards, or flowers. This may also work in reverse due to their guilt over their indiscretions.

• Speaks to you often regarding a new co-worker. This may be a new secretary, manager, or intern that your partner spends a lot of time alone at work or on the road with.

• Has received a new promotion and is spending more time out of town than usual. 

• Lies about going to spend time with a bestfriend or be at a friend's christmas party, brithday party or girls or boy night out,  but turns out there is no party and the friend is covering up for your significant other to cheat. 

• Tells you they are not feeling well and they are going to stay home from work and will be turning off their cell phone so they can get some rest. In fact you leave for work and they cheat. 

• Additional Signs or Red Flags that you may have discovered:

   You receive hang up calls at home in the middle of the night or at odd times of the day.

  • You start receiving a lot of wrong number calls at home.
  • You discover unfamiliar numbers stored or dialed on their cell phone or cell phone bill and your significant other says they dont know who the numbers are.
  • You notice a new cologne/ perfume or sexy clothing in their, dresser, closet or  vehicle.
  • You discover unfamiliar earrings or jewelry show up in their vehicle or somewhere in your home.
  • You notice unfamiliar hairs (a different color or length than your or theirs) in their vehicle, or on their clothing, or in your home.
  • You notice the odor of cigarette smoke on your non-smoking partners clothing or in their vehicle. This is usually from the lover they meet in bars or being around that new lover who may smoke.

  • You notice unexplained mileage changes on the odometer of their vehicle.

  • You notice credit card receipts from locations they have visited that seem questionable and you know you have not gone there.

  • You notice they seem distant and distracted most of the time and not very interested in you in a sexual manner. 

   

  • Friends or acquaintances start informing you that they saw your spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance/fiancee, or significant other out somewhere with some unfamiliar individual. Most times, friends, family, or acquaintances will find out about the cheating way before you do.

  • • You notice changes in you and your partners sex life. This could be more activity, less activity. New or experimental sexual techniques and acts could be involved, wanting to experience with toys or role playing, where you never did this before all because your significant other has experienced this with their lover and they wnat to see if they cant get the same feeling with you. 

    • You notice a change in contraception or pregnancy prevention methods between you and your partner. This can include the sudden introduction of condoms by your partner to prevent the possible passing of any sexually transmitted diseases.

    • You notice your partner departing from home to work earlier than usual on a consistent basis. Confidence levels seem to have risen considerably for no apparent reason. They are spending less time at home and more time "at the office" or "working late". This would be unaccounted time.

    At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.

    After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.